Dr. Jeffrey Rossman suggests five ways to do it:
Acknowledge your feelings.
David said, “When my spirit was overwhelmed… You knew my path.”
God already knows how you feel, and stifling your emotions just saps your energy, leaves you tense, depressed, and slows the healing process.
- Confide in someone.
That doesn’t mean pouring your heart out to everybody and anybody; it means opening up to those who love and care about you.
The Bible says, “A friend loves at all times, and is born, as is a brother for adversity” (Proverbs 17:17 AMPC).
Numerous studies have confirmed the power of social support to help us through crises and stay healthy.
- Start a journal or a blog.
Writing about a traumatic event is a way of letting it out.
It minimizes your changes of becoming sick or depressed; the more you write, the more your negative responses to the memory diminish.
- Refuse to play the blame game.
“It’s the other guy’s fault,” or “The doctor botched the procedure,” or “The boss never gave me a chance.”
Blame-shifting makes others responsible for your pain, and more often than not, it results in lingering grudges that prolong your misery.
Let go of toxic bitterness and judgment.
Stop feeling like a doormat; you can forgive while taking steps to make yourself less vulnerable next time.
- Forgive yourself.
Surprise - you’re human like everyone else!
Acknowledge you make a mistake, ask God for forgiveness, then forgive yourself and move on.
God’s Word says when He forgives, He doesn’t “keep a list of your sins” (Isaiah 43:25 MSG).
Neither should you.
Now that I have shared this with you, let’s see what the Word of God has to say about dealing with crisis.
I cry out to the Lord with my voice;
With my voice to the Lord I make my supplication.
I pour out my complaint before Him;
I declare before Him my trouble.
When my spirit [b]was overwhelmed within me,
Then You knew my path.
In the way in which I walk
They have secretly set a snare for me.
Look on my right hand and see,
For there is no one who acknowledges me;
Refuge has failed me;
No one cares for my soul.
I cried out to You, O Lord:
I said, “You are my refuge,
My portion in the land of the living.
[c]Attend to my cry,
For I am brought very low;
Deliver me from my persecutors,
For they are stronger than I.
Comment: (Psalm 142:6)
Have you ever felt that no one cared what happened to you?
David had a good reason to feel that way, and he wrote “Hear my cry, for I am very low.”
Through prayer we can pull out of our tailspin and be reminded that God cares for us deeply.
Bring my soul out of prison,
That I may praise Your name;
The righteous shall surround me,
For You shall deal bountifully with me.”
Comment: (Psalm 142:7)
This psalm was written when David was hiding from Saul in caves like the ones at Adullam (1 Samuel 22) or En-gedl (1 Samuel 24).
These may have seemed like prisons to him because of the confinement.